The beginning of the year is when so many people want to make a fresh start and change habits seen to be destructive to their overall health and well being. And while it is a great symbolic time to make new goals and intentions for the new year, most New Years Resolutions will be forgotten within the first few weeks if not days of having made them.
This year, set yourself up for success by avoiding these 5 common mistakes people make that doom them to failure before they have even begun.
1. Not Being Resolute – A resolution means just that. Being committed to your goal NO MATTER WHAT! Too many people make throw away statements about their New Years Resolutions with no real grit and determination behind them. If you want to change habits that you have had for years you’re going to need a strong will power and plenty of determination. If you really want to change your habits and your results in 2013 in any area of your life, state your goals and intentions as if you mean them. Put real passion into them. Achieving your goals won’t be easy, but it will be worth it.
2. Being Too Vague – Saying you want to quit smoking, lose weight, get fit, be more successful, or whatever your goal is may sound good but you must be much more specific about them. Whatever you want to achieve, quantify it and then put a time frame on it. Write your goals down in specific detail and imagine how it’s going to feel when you achieve them. Keep those goals somewhere where you will see them often to remind yourself of where you’re headed. Being specific and writing your goals down lets your subconscious mind know that you’re serious and you have every intention of achieving what you have written down.
3. What’s Your Why? – You must have a clear vision of why you want to achieve your goals. Just because it sounds good and everybody else is doing it is not good enough. Do you want to quit smoking to ensure you get to grow old and see your kids and grand kids grow up? Do you want to get fit so you can feel stronger and more empowered physically and mentally? Do you want that promotion because of the security it will give your family? Do you want to lose weight so you can look amazing in that cute little outfit again and parade in front of your harshest critics with confidence (that’s generally a girl thing!)?
Have a very specific vision of why you want to achieve your goals and how it’s going to feel when you do and make sure you keep coming back to that. And one more thing, you MUST, MUST, MUST do this for yourself, not to please somebody else.
4. Failing To Plan ……………… is planning to fail. This statement is so true. Whatever you want to change, you need to have a plan to create the new you, especially for when things get a little bit tough. Firstly, how are you going to lose weight and get fit? Go to a gym? Go to a yoga class? Start walking or jogging? Join Weight Watchers? If you want to quit smoking, how are you going to? With patches? NLP? EFT? And what are you going to do when the alarm goes off 1 hour early for you to go training and you really don’t feel like it? Or when you’re drinking with friends and they’re all smoking? Or when you’re confronted with a table full of all the wrong, but oh so yummy foods? Make a list of all the things you can think of that are going to get you off track and plan what you’re going to do
5. No Accountability – If there is no accountability or consequences to you not achieving those goals then you’re not going to have the fortitude or will power to keep going when things get tough. Have somebody you report back to about your challenges and progress regularly, at least once a week. This could be a buddy to train with or a coach. Find someone who is also really serious about making changes and commit to supporting, encouraging and holding each other accountable to those goals. Have someone you can call when you’re in a week moment who will say to you “Don’t you dare give up!”. Join a mastermind group or create one yourself and treat them like your Board of Directors that you have to report back to about your progress.
Even if you’re reading this and it’s not the beginning of the year, or if you’ve already strayed off path, you can take these steps right now and begin today! Don’t wait for next New Years. Remember, this is not a New Years resolution, but a life time resolution.
These steps will work with any goal you want to achieve. Make sure you do these first before you do anything and set yourself up for success right in the beginning.